Coping With Stress From Making Education Decisions for your Kids Due to COVID-19

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Many parents are facing difficult questions around whether or not to send their children to school as schools make decisions around what teaching will look like in the new academic year. This has brought with it a new wave of uncertainty and the stress that comes with it as people weight their personal comfort with the idea of a return to school while the virus is still active in many communities.

Gathering information

If your child’s school is reopening for in-person classes this academic year, or starting to do “hybrid” learning—where children will both attend school in-person and online. You may find yourself uncomfortable with the idea of your child re-joining classes even if physical distancing measures are in place. On the other side, you yourself may be facing a return to your workplace but your child’s school has decided to continue distance learning, which can place you in the difficult situation of needing to make arrangements for care or continue to home school your child.

The best way to feel calm about the uncertainty around your child’s education is to equip yourself with as much information as possible to help you make the right decision for your family.

Find out what the plan is for your area.Look to your local education department or school district to see what authorities are saying, and whythey’re saying it. Has the COVID-19 infection rate gone down in your area, so they think it’s safe enough to open schools? Or is a high infection rate keeping schools closed for the near future? Is there a plan to review openings or closures quarterly? Does your school have an opt-in or opt-out system that allows some children to go back to classroom learning while other can make arrangements to stay at home? Are some of the children in certain grades able to opt in or opt out in your area? Gathering as much information as possible will give you a good sense of the situation in your area.

Engage with your community.If there’s an email list for your child’s school, school district, or the local school board, ask to be on it so that you can get updates as and when they happen. Visit your local hospital’s website for information about the infection rates you live. Remember that many things might change in the coming months, so it’s important to stay up to date.

Don’t rely too much social media.While it can be nice to receive moral support from friends near and far,sometimes well-meaning people can post articles from biased news sources or opinions presented as fact. Get your news from trusted, national news sources and your state and local authorities instead. Some of the trusted news sources are Health Canada, and the World Health Organization.

Making a decision for your family

With all the information you’ve gathered, you are now better informed to make a decision for your family. Here’s are some guidelines.

Talk to your partner or co-parent.They will probably have their own ideas of opinions about what they are comfortable with for your child. This can be tricky if you’re divorced, or if your child’s other parent has a different idea of what returning to school will look like. It is very important to have an open conversation focused on what is best for your child’s safety and education, and try not to bring your emotions into the conversation.

Measure the pros and cons.Ask yourself what you feel most comfortable with, weighing all the information you have. You might find that the course of action you had originally planned is not a reality right now, but may be in a few months. In those cases, have a “contingency plan” for when you willbe able to do what you’d like. For example: “I want the kids to go back to school, but the county’s hospitals are saying that the daily infection rate for our area is high and they are advising that people continue to stay home. When the infection rate drops and health officials change their recommendation, I’ll feel comfortable sending them to school.” Be sure to talk to your school district or local board if you chose to send your child to school and the rates begin to rise, to see what their plans are should circumstances change.

If your children are older, you might talk to them about how they feel about going back to school.If you feel they’re able to handle such a conversation, there’s no harm in including them in the discussion. Talk to them about what they are (and aren’t) comfortable with, what activities they would like to participate in again, and how they feel overall about being back with their peers social distancing.